Since you’re not new to this parenting thing, you know there are times when your kids don’t tell you everything you should know. That means you have to watch for the signs. College Parents of America just released the latest edition of “College Parents Handbook for Student Success,” which is filled with helpful information.
This year’s handbook offers signs that your son or daughter isn’t doing well at school. He or she:
- Calls home a lot if he/she normally doesn’t
- Never calls home if he/she usually does
- Wants to come home often if he/she usually doesn’t
- Never wants to come home if he/she typically does
- Doesn’t want to return to school
- Is negative about everything
- Is not participating in any activities or groups
- Is not going to class
- Is not completing projects
- Is getting low grades
- Has lost a significant amount of weight
- Has an excessive need for money
- Is not sharing information
How you can help.
Wait it out
While you may want to fix whatever the problem is immediately, it may be wiser to give him/her time. This will give your son or daughter time to realize the problem and resolve it.
Talk with your child
Tell your son or daughter why you’re concerned and that you’ll help him/her in any way you can. Encourage him/her to stay on campus to work through the issue, though that depends on how big the problem is. Typically, though, it may be better for them to deal with the problem than come home and escape it.
Help your child create an action plan
Once he/she explains the problem, help him/her develop a plan that he/she can control.
Help your child identify the root of the problem
Helping to figure out what caused the problem will put your student one step closer to solving it.
Visit your student on campus
This will help you see things in your son or daughter’s environment, which you may find helpful. Coming to campus will also help you connect with your student without his/her coming home to escape the problem.
Give him/her a break
This is probably the last resort, but if the problem is severe enough, he/she may need to take a break from school, maybe withdrawing from the current semester.