Congratulations. Your son or daughter got that diploma, and you were so proud on graduation day you just about burst. But now, he or she has moved home, and you’re not exactly sure how you’re going to cope.
You’re not alone. A poll conducted last year by Twentysomething Inc. found that 85% of graduates moved back home for awhile after college graduation.
So, what do you do now? Don’t fret. There are some things you can do to make that transition easier for both you and your son or daughter. College Parents of America says planning and good communication are the keys. Here are some other suggestions:
It can be demoralizing for college grads to have to return home, so try and help them stay positive. If tension arises and you need to address a situation, start with the negative but be sure to end on a positive note.
Continue to offer encouragement. Tell them you’re happy to help them while they get on their feet and that you’re confident that they’ll be able to do that soon.
Don’t Enable Them
Your son or daughter may need financial support for awhile, too. It’s important to encourage and support him or her without enabling them. If you make things too comfortable, they may never leave. While it may be hard to watch them struggle, the experts agree that you should not compromise your long-term financial and retirement goals to help your son or daughter.
Help Them Prepare for the Future
There are many ways to do this. Perhaps as a graduation gift you can take him/her shopping for professional clothes. Help them with their resumes if you have those skills. If her or she is looking for professional advice, share your job experience and look for opportunities within your own network. If your son or daughter feels awkward asking you, suggest a colleague or friend who they may feel more comfortable talking with.
Show Interest in their Job-Search Progress
It’s important for you to communicate to your son or daughter the importance of having a job and that their job right now is finding a job. Ask them regularly (you’ll know when you’re asking too often) how their search is going.
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