Well, there are several things you can try to make things better. Dr. Susan Fee, a clinical counselor and author of “My Roommate is Driving me Crazy” offers some advice:
Here are some other suggestions we hope will help you:
- Take time to get to know each other. Learning more about each other will give you insight into how they think, what they feel, and why they do what they do.
- Find common interest. Once you find a couple of things you like to do, you can enjoy them together, thus building upon your relationship.
- Negotiate. If some of your trouble comes from sharing space or conflicting schedules, set up a schedule you can all agree on.
- Communicate. If there is something bothering you, tell your room. Just be sure to be polite.
- Respect each other’s belongings. Make sure you get their permission first before borrowing their sweater, eating their snacks, or using their computer.
- Create a cleaning schedule. Let’s face it, no one likes to clean. But, creating a schedule will ensure that everyone is sharing in the cleaning and no one is stuck doing it all, which would make anyone mad.
- Let go of the little things. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Don’t get mad at every single thing your roommate does or doesn’t do. Living with someone else isn’t always easy. Sometimes, loosening up a bit helps.
- Leave for awhile. Study in the library. Hang out with some friends. Sometimes just leaving for a little while makes things better.
- Make some house rules and communicate them often. That way, you and your roommate can determine when quiet times will be so you can both get some studying done.
- Be courteous. Set an example. If you’re courteous, your roommate will likely follow your example.
- Talk to your RA. These students are trained to deal with these kinds of issues and will be able to help you.
Do you have any suggestions to share? If so, just let us know.
On Wednesday, we’ll address how to deal with stress on campus.